[Heaven's Night]

I agree mutual respect is very important on this forum.

In regards to Sandy's latest comment, I'm unsure of how to best express myself on my reaction to it. If anything, I feel a bit disinterested about a singular, "off-handed" transphobic remark. I say off-handed because it's not like Sandy started off with post #1 being filled with transphobic comments. And to my knowledge Sandy hasn't posted any new threads/comments, transphobic or otherwise. Comments like in Sandy's context don't hurt me like institutional transphobia has in the last two years or so. In an online context, I think the most that can be done is to report the post to the moderators and/or utilize the "ignore/block user" option.

In regards to crossdressers, I'm not sure how that is relevant. If crossdressers (or any other demographic) are receiving 0% disrespect on the forum, I think that's a positive for the forum, not a shortcoming.

On the topic of NBE advice, I agree much of it is based on anecdotes. Hence, why I stand by my universal "guidelines" and not "absolutes" when providing feedback on NBE regimes. When I was on PM, I did cycle at higher doses without any health complications, but I wouldn't recommend anyone try what I did on day 1 of their NBE. Some people can be very sensitive to PM and not need the higher doses to see results. Other people might be more susceptible to health risks of a NBE regime. Likewise, I had some unpleasant side-effects when I was on finasteride, but I wouldn't discourage someone who wanted to try it as a DHT blocker.

I feel like the "burden" of testing NBE regimes isn't something that should fall on the shoulders of a single individual, but rather it should be a communal effort. For example, if 95% of forum users of herb XYZ report favorable results of breast development, I think that's compelling proof that such a herb is effective for most users.

If you (or anyone else) are debating leaving (or just taking a break), perhaps that's a sign you should? I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing less screen time, especially for the betterment of one's mental health. Speaking from my own experience, I have taken breaks from online venues because I needed it.

Letting any bs fly will make more bs fly. I'm a nasty annoying bitch like that, someone says a sex transition cannot be done while I'm actively doing it to myself, you can be sure I point it out. Like a nasty annoying bitch.

It is relevant, as if by magic, no one is ever questioning the validity of cd/tv dudes doing their thing and growing boobs with magical Thai potatoes which a lot of them do just to get their rocks off. But for some reason, existence and validity of trans identities does repeatedly happen. Respect and acceptance should belong to everybody, but its very obvious who the most hated minority here is. Anybody surprised?

PM has shown to be quite bad stuff for a lot of people, these days I say its one of the "proceed with extreme caution" things. And Fina, I would rather avoid it in favour of better blockers.

Its all about who's willing to take the plunge with it. Most common thing is to read about it, then do everything wrong and then come back complaining and pointing fingers for it not working. TCP is a thing that's showing much promise and I wish more people would try it, and do it right. Not some random this and that, not by replacing every piece of it with something worse or just claiming to do it while doing something completely different. There's several people who are having success with it. 

BN is not gnawing away my mental healh much, its social media that does if I pay too much attention... BN is just a niche side show thing in my life currently.