13-04-2021, 06:01 PM
(13-04-2021, 02:59 PM)Drew Wrote: Happy to hear your mum's reaction but is no surprise as mums are a bit like that. Also it's very strange how people can develop an extreme fear of losing somebody who will never, never abandon them. I sort of pick up that feeling that you are that sort of person too. Hope I'm not wrong but I am arrogantly absolutely sure you are one of those who will not emotionally hurt or let's say..abandon a person who needs us.
I cannot answer how to fix that issue, it's something I have gone through myself and perplexed me and have no answer to. And no! you don't need to take pics with a tape because those things and the charts are lying bastards, according to statistics I'm supposed to be a D cup, all of my bras are a B and I can barely, almost just about fill them. So you see this is how I got a bit curious, and probably offensive which made me decide at that time to leave this place for ever. But I believe you, if your bras fit and am sure they do then that's you. Bras and sizes are a bit dodgy. All of my bras are 70b or 32b I think in imperial? Some look a bit creased or baggy as I'm not quite filling it, others look like im about to burst out of them am stretching it so much, even though they are all the same size. Dont worry about it too much, boob size is a bit of a bitch, finding a bra that fit's ..well kinda difficult.
Yea, well, what ever doubts she may have, those will dissolve with time when she sees that I will persist. You are correct, I have no problem of letting people go... Even close ones, even those I love, if its necessary or they insist, I let them go and I have no problem also moving forward when someone isn't worth my time and energy. Some may think its selfish or emotionally cold, but I don't see it like that.
Hahaha, yea, bra sizes and measurements are quite a load of crap when compared to others. I use it to gauge my progress and find educated guesses on which clothes to fit in and so far I've been quite correct with it. My new bras should arrive in day or two and that's one more moment of truth if my gamble was a good one or not.
I think the problems stems from firstly, people being obsessed about size, and secondly for many thinking that bra size = boob size. Both are bunch a hooey. For me the best fitting bras start from a euro size D cup, the current fave being 90 E or 40 DD, its starting to fit better each day, but it still has some loose space to fill on top of the cups. I picked a one with big cups on purpose as smaller cups seem to never be wide enough for me. The problem is that those which are wide enough are often too deep as they're designed for more projection like born that way ladies often have. Its a total gamble on what fits. And then there's the sister sizes too... A cup can be an E cup which is a nice mind bend on the already ridiculous labyrinth of bra sizing. Its a pain in the ass... What I find most useful and important about the measurements is the ratios and keeping eye out for changes. You've must have seen some screenshots of the spreadsheet I'm making? The most important numbers I think are the bust to band ratio, more specifically the rolling weekly average I calculated as that takes the natural fluctuation out from twisting the numbers and gives an easy to read idea on the development, the numbers themselves are more or less irrelevant, just their relativity is. Then ofc, the other numbers give me up to date idea on which bras to get next be the aim a perfect fit or a goal bra.
Speaking of numbers, I just measured a new record, bust right now is at 47".